Do you ever have second thoughts to yourself, if your friends are really your friends?
Meeting new people and making friends is a part of life. You remember when you were younger and you instantly became friends with a lot of your classmates just because you’re being nice or friendly. Now you are like out of school and the older you got you realize some of your friends seems unusual. Some point in life you’ll come across or lost a friend for some reason. As you read this now you are probably standing right in front of you without even knowing. Luckily for you babes, I found out there are big signs to look for…
- They make you feel crappy about yourself when you are not hanging out with them.
- They keep making promises they can never keep or wanting something from you.
So, let’s say you were in a Kanye West situation where you had a cousin that stole your laptop that had personal stuff in it. You had to pay your cousin $$$ just to get from him/her. Also, that time where they always ask for ride constantly and it has nothing to do with you.
- They treat you completely different when you’re around their friends.
- They gossip non stop about their friends business.
This a big red flag. If they keep constantly gossiping about other people, just imagine what they are saying about you. There is a high chance they are talking bad about you to somebody else. Let’s be honest a real friend wouldn’t do that; a real friend’s got your back.
- They never support you.
- They don’t even listen to you.
I always had this one big pet peeve where when I am hanging out with you. You are on your phone constantly and I am trying best to have a conversation with you. You just have their head down and be like mhm mhm mhm..
- They insult and then compliment you at the same time.
We call that backhanded compliment. For example, “You’re smarter than you look” “You beautiful for a ____.” People in the South will look at someone they really don’t approve of and say sweetly, “Well, bless your heart.”
As Dan Pearce once said “Share your weaknesses. Share your hard moments. Share your real side. It’ll either scare away every fake person in your life or it will inspire them to finally let go of that mirage called “perfection,” which will open the doors to the most important relationships you’ll ever be a part of.”
Have you ever had a fake friend or were you the fake friend?